Supporting Naval children with special needs

Are you the parent of a young child that potentially has special needs and are finding yourself struggling with the system? Both the Naval Children’s Charity (NCC) and the Naval Families Federation (NFF) have noticed that they are receiving enquiries from families on this issue.  

For many families with young children some indications of potential special needs show at a young age, often picked up by health visitors or as they start nursery or school. Getting the right assessments, therapies and support for your children can be a long and bewildering process.  

The NCC are often approached by families in these situations looking for advice, support and, on occasion, financial assistance to facilitate the journey which can lead to getting an Educational Health Care Plan (EHCP) put in place.  

All children and young people may experience learning difficulties at some point. This is not unusual. For most children the difficulties are temporary and are soon overcome with help and encouragement from home and school.

The term ‘Special Educational Needs’ is used to describe learning difficulties or disabilities that make it harder for children to learn than most children of the same age. Children with Special Educational Needs (SEN) are likely to need extra or different help from that given to other children their age. This help is known as special educational provision.

There are four main categories of special educational needs as set out in the SEND code of practice: 0-25 years   

Children may have difficulties in one or more areas, such as:

  • Thinking, understanding and learning: these children may find all learning activities difficult, or have particular difficulties with some learning activities such as reading and spelling. They may learn at a slower pace than others, find the curriculum difficult, or struggle with organisation and memory.
  • Emotional and behavioural difficulties: these children may have very low self-esteem and lack confidence. They may find it difficult to follow rules or settle down and behave properly in school. They may find relationships difficult, appear withdrawn or isolated or do things that impact on their health and wellbeing. 
  • Speech, language and communication: these children may have difficulty in expressing themselves or understanding what others are saying to them. They may find it hard to make friends or relate to others, find conversations and play confusing or challenging. They may find it difficult to make sense of the world around them or to organise themselves.
  • Physical or sensory difficulties: these children may have a disability or a medical condition that has an impact upon their learning. They may have a physical difficulty such as a visual or hearing impairment. These difficulties can be age related and may fluctuate over time meaning they may find it hard to access a school because of their disability or might need extra support or specialist equipment. 

The first and most important thing to remember is that all children with SEN are entitled to receive a broad, balanced and suitable education which includes the Early Years Foundation Stage Curriculum (for children aged 3 to 5) or the National Curriculum (for children aged 5 to 16).

Most children with SEN have their needs met in a mainstream school or early settings, although some children with more complex needs benefit from the more specialist help offered in a ‘special’ school.

You should be told if the school thinks your child has or may have SEN and how the school will be helping your child. Your views are very important and so are your child’s own views. The school should make sure that you are involved in all decisions that affect your child because you have a vital role in supporting your child’s education.

If you are a serving family and are looking for advice and support for a child with SEN then the Education Advisory Team (EAT(UK)), part of the MOD’s Defence Children Services (DCS), can help. Other advice for all children can be found through the Independent Provider of Special Education Advice (IPSEA). 

However, we know that finding support can be difficult. There can be long waiting lists for assessments and then for the recommended therapies. In some cases, the NCC can support your family with navigating this process.  

Therapeutic support. If your child has been recommended therapy, such as Speech and Language Therapy (SALT) it can be difficult to find a practitioner that has availability and that your child connects with.  

We know that there is a backlog within the system for children waiting for specialist help, as of Nov 2022 there were 65,000 children under the age of 18 on the NHS waiting list for SALT. Evidence shows that early intervention is beneficial, leading to better outcomes in speech, language and communication.  

The NCC have partnered with a new online resource to help families and professionals find the right therapist for your child. TAC Access is a directory of Therapists across the UK who work both face to face and virtually. We can also, in some circumstances, support your family in funding SALT and other therapies.  

There is a new app which has been developed to support parents with speech delayed children, called Pippin Speech. The app includes activities, resources and ideas to try with your child at home.  

The NHS has resources for parents to support children with speech and language difficulties which are available regionally through your local NHS Trust.  

The Naval Children’s Charity (NCC) has also developed a partnership with the National Autistic Society (NAS) to offer experienced and bespoke support to Naval parents who have children with Autism, whether diagnosed or not. To find out if your child meets the criteria for support from the NAS, you can contact the NCC directly, or come to the NCC through RN FPS/other agencies, and our caseworking team will carry out an in-depth assessment to establish the circumstances and needs of your child.

This may then lead to a referral to the NAS and, if required, financial assistance from the NCC towards additional support following recommendations from the NAS. The NAS have centres that can provide assessments for children which are recognised by Local Authorities. 

Clare Scherer, CEO of the Naval Children’s Charity said

“We are delighted to be working in partnership with the National Autistic Society to help improve the support given to our children and young people with Autism and to provide professional and tailored support to the families. As part of our programmes supporting the Health and Wellbeing of our families this is a significant partnership for us.”  

The RNRMC, through their Strengthening Families programme, are working with organisations such as the NCC and Kids Charity to develop support to parents with neurodiverse children. 

Any financial support from the NCC is means tested but we offer much more than just financial grants. If you think you would like to discuss any issues facing you and your children please contact us on caseworkers@navalchildrenscharity.org.uk or call 023 9263 9534. Visit the education section of our help page, to find out more. 

Cost of living crisis: 4 resources for Naval families

The UK is in the midst of its worst cost of living crisis since the 1970s.

Food, energy, broadband, council tax and petrol prices are steadily increasing, with wages lagging behind. While you could be forgiven for trying to block out the headlines, now is the time to listen and take action. 

With the summer holidays fast approaching, we know there will be extra pressures on parents financially. These challenges are particularly difficult for the less fortunate, as those on free school meals will have an increased cost of living, even before trying to spend on entertainment for the kids over the summer. 

Looking forward to the winter months, forecasts for energy costs are escalating and will create even greater stress on family incomes. 

Our advice is to start thinking about these costs now. Give yourself the time to budget, search for discounts and implement new habits before things get more expensive. 

To help you in your endeavours, we’ve put together a list of resources, both general and tailored to Naval families, that can help you tighten those purse strings. 

 

Moneysavingexpert.com

For a general overview of how to budget, and access discounts on key living costs, moneysavingexpert.com is a great place to start. 

Martin Lewis and his team have reacted at great pace to provide in-depth advice to those that are really feeling the pinch. 

Their cost of living survival kit offers solutions to problems raised by followers of the website’s social media channels. It is essentially a crowdsourced one-stop-shop for the current personal financial crisis. 

Advice ranges from a guide on ‘How to heat the human, not the home’, to links on checking if your family could be entitled to government assistance, and how you can claim free food from supermarkets and restaurant chains. 

A lot of their pre-existing content has become even more relevant. This evergreen guide to budgeting will help you reduce monthly costs almost immediately, while the money makeover guide helps you to take an appraisal of your current outgoings. The Money Saving Expert forums are a great place to bounce ideas off of fellow savers, and find ideas that even Mr Lewis himself hasn’t conceived. 

 

Turn2us

Turn2us is a charity that helps people in financial need gain access to welfare benefits, grants and other financial help. 

They have a range of support tailored to fit specific groups, as well as brilliant general advice on tackling increased cost of living. Their benefit calculator can help families access thousands of pounds they might otherwise have missed out on. 

For those who are expecting a child, are currently raising children, are themselves a young person taking the next step in their education (16+), or are considering a vocational career (16-18), they have extensive guides on accessing government support. 

They also have a range of resources that are of particular interest to military families, all of which are detailed in this guide. This includes information on financial support for both serving and veteran personnel. 

 

SAIL 

The Seafarers’ Advice & Information Line (SAIL) is the only UK-wide Citizens Advice for seafarers and their partners. As such, they can help members of the Royal Navy and The Royal Fleet Auxiliary. 

As well as offering advice on budgeting and associated issues such as debt management and housing, they can help with familial problems that can arise from stretched finances. 

Looking longer term, they can also provide help on pensions, which could prove vital as we become more fixated on our immediate needs. 

Their information page provides quick and itemised information on their range of services. 

 

Jack Monroe – Cooking on a Bootstrap

Food prices have proven to be a particularly pressing issue in the past few months. Jack Monroe has been at the forefront of this coverage, but has been helping low income families effectively budget their grocery spends for almost a decade. 

Her website is a valuable source of cheap and nutritious recipes for breakfast, lunch, dinner and all the snacks in between. The meticulous itemising of costs will give you a far more accurate understanding of your spend per portion than any other recipe website. 

Jack also has a range of budget cookbooks. While this may seem like an unnecessary cost, the potential savings quickly cover the initial outlay.  

For those on social media, Jack often shares examples of her own family’s weekly meal plans on Twitter, as well as providing tips on how to make ingredients go further. 

 

Contact the Naval Children’s Charity

If you’re struggling, and need our help, please don’t hesitate to get in touch. 

We can provide support for the living costs of children up to the age of 25, where their parent or guardian is a veteran or serving member of the Royal Navy, the Royal Marines, Women’s Royal Naval Service, the Royal Fleet Auxiliary and the Queen Alexandra’s Royal Naval Nursing Service. 

You can find out more by visiting the help section of our website, or by emailing us at caseworkers@navalchildrenscharity.org.uk 

A caseworker will then be in touch to discuss the options with you after your initial contact. Our support is means tested, however the caseworker will be able to guide you through the process. 

 

Further resources Charities that can help 

While we will endeavour to help all Naval families as best we can, there are also charities that we can recommend that might be able to help with your cost of living issues. Please see a list below that can support your different needs: 

Housing 
Energy bills
Food 
Debt management
Others

 

Get in touch! 

We want this article to be a living, breathing resource for Naval families across the country. If you have a resource that you’ve found useful, let us know, and we’ll add it in! If you represent a charity that could help Naval families budget, claim benefits or manage their debt, we’d also love to hear from you

The Webster’s Story

We’re proud to provide continuing and sustained support to naval families. In this case, we’ve helped an ex-serving family look after two generations of their family, for the past 12 years. 

The Websters* first came to us in 2008. Dad was about to be deployed and, with five children, Mum needed some help during the school holidays. Their eldest son, Dan, has learning disabilities, while his younger brother, Sam, has Autism.

We continued to support the family through the hard times and the good. We provided respite activities for the two boys with special needs during the holidays and supported Mum as the marriage broke down.

After Amy, her eldest daughter, began to show a promising academic streak, we helped with an educational grant that part-funded her tuition at a private school.

Despite her difficulties mum has continued to provide amazing care for her children. Her third son has now joined the Army, and she has recently become responsible for her two grandchildren, holding special guardianship for both children.

We recently gave the family one of our Christmas grants, to help with groceries and presents over the festive period. A special delivery was also made for the latest addition to the family, as we were able to supply baby toys and clothes for her youngest grandchild.

Testimonial:

“Thank you so much for all of your help, without your kindness I would have encountered real difficulties.

I wanted to express my heartfelt thanks to you for all of your help and support.

You have really made a difference to us.”

 

* The names included in this article have been changed to protect the subjects’ identities.

Knitting the family: mummy and daddy dolls help children’s wellbeing while parents are on deployment

At Crofton Hammond Infant School in Fareham, Hampshire, the teachers identified a recurring issue, impacting the children’s wellbeing. 

In July 2019, 32% of the school’s pupils were from Armed Forces families, with the majority of those parents serving in the Royal Navy. The staff observed that high numbers of these children were suffering in their parent’s absence, affecting their engagement and learning. 

As per The Children’s Commissioner’s 2018 Kin and County report, primary school children can suffer from ‘sadness, worry and general unease’, due to the short- or long-term deployment of a parent. 

The teachers decided to implement a ‘deployment package’, that would help children adjust to a period of separation. 

Drawing inspiration from our ‘Knit the Family’ initiative, the school decided to create a special set of dolls for each family. 

A proficient knitter created bespoke dolls in the likeness of a child and their parent. Following a successful implementation, the scheme was extended to include civilian children whose parents worked away during the week. 

Many parents reported that the child and doll were inseparable, and that the children were overjoyed to see their doll doppelgängers out on deployment with mummy or daddy. 

Staff observed a positive impact on the pupil’s wellbeing and readiness to learn, while many parents reported a greater sense of community within the school. It has also raised awareness within the children to be sensitive around a peer when their mum or dad is on deployment. 

A Year 1 teacher at Crofton Hammond Infant School said: 

“One child, who found it particularly tricky that her dad worked away Monday to Friday, just pops her ‘Daddy Doll’ in the front of her jumper when she comes to school and consequently, she can cope a lot better, and her learning has really improved.” 

You can read more about the school’s deployment packages by downloading the report. This case study was provided by the Service Children’s Progression Alliance, a charity that strives to improve educational outcomes for children and young people from Armed forces families.   

We’re always on the lookout for knitters to volunteer their skills. We’ve found that a version of mummy or daddy, or the protagonists of our short stories, The Time Rabbit and Time Penguin, can help children struggling with separation profoundly. Please visit the fundraisers & supporters page of our website to find out more.